A woman has been left heartbroken after catching her husband sending sexually explicit messages to other women. But while she feels "sick" about the entire thing, she still doesn't want to leave her husband, saying how "he is her world".
Seeking advice on NetMums, she said: "I found out yesterday that my husband has been sending explicit messages and photos of himself to women on some sort of messaging app. I feel sick. My head is spinning and I don't know what to do. I thought we were happy, obviously not.
"I don't want to leave him. He is my world. But I just don't know how I'll get past this. I'm so confused. I have never felt so low in my life, that includes being physically cheated on by my ex. Because my husband isn't 'that guy' he's not meant to betray me like this. He's meant to be one of the good ones.
When she confronted him about it, he apologised saying 'It was only a bit of fun' and promised never to betray her again. She added: "I feel like such a failure, I'm meant to keep him happy and content and I obviously haven't managed that. I know it could be so much worse but to me I feel just as hurt as if he had physically cheated. He's meant to be mine. No other woman should see his intimate areas.
"I don't really know why I'm posting here. I just need to talk. Or scream! I've held my emotions in all day as the kids were around so tried to act like everything was normal. But now they are in bed and my husband is at work and I can't stop crying. I am utterly devastated."
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But while some users shared their sympathies with the woman, others urged her to rethink her relationship with her husband. One user said: "It certainly doesn't seem like fun now as far as either you or him are concerned. His idea of fun turned out to have caused you both a great deal of distress and agony. It has almost got to the stage where the relationship could have been in danger - this isn't fun.
"He gets this? It sounds like he does but perhaps consider not leaving it to chance. Spend time with him talking about it and letting him know about your pain and distress and perhaps be quite clear about the link between your unhappiness and his fun. If he truly get the link then this stuff can't happen again and it won't happen again if he truly respects you as a human being and wants to save you from this sort of pain in the future."
Another user added: "Thats just low him doing this in the first place for such a length of time. Has he never given a reason, though there isnt one good enough, as to why? I just dont get why a perfectly decent guy would just do that. Its upto you what you do. You could try a couple councilling or try relate. Or you could have a break from each other? He has been a complete moron and you sound like such a lovely, level headed woman. Its a shame he's gone and done this to you."
A third user said: "Maybe there is a deeper reason as to why he did this but that doesn't mean it's because of you if he loves you then he shouldn't care whether you put weight on or not inst what's inside that counts? dont make excuses for him he's an adult he knew exactly what he was doing. Do you think you can trust him now do you think if he weren't caught do you think that that he would of carried on or taken it further."
